It is right & natural that those faced with death & dying should grieve,
and feeling angry is natural too.
Here are some words written in times of great loss.
Our feelings need to be expressed, but even as we are torn with grief and anger
we also need to understand that.......

Those who are dead are never gone:
they are there in the thickening shadow.butterfly
The dead are not under the earth:
they are in the tree that rustles.
they are in the wood that groans,
they are in the water that sleeps,
they are in the hut, they are in the crowd,
the dead are not dead.
They who are dead are never gone,
they are in the breast of the woman,
they are in the child who is wailing,
and in the firebrand that flames.
The dead are not under the earth:
they are in the fire that is dying,
they are in the grasses that weep,
they are in the whimpering rocks
they are in the forest, they are in the house
The dead are not dead..........

Birago Diop

Do not say that I'll depart tomorrow
because even today I still arrive
Look deeply: I arrive in every second
to be a bud on a spring branch,
to be a tiny bird whose wings are still
fragile, learning to sing in my new nest,
to be a caterpillar in the heart of a flower
to be a jewel hiding itself in a stone.

I still arrive, in order to laugh and to cry, in
order to fear and to hope,
the rhythm of my heart is the birth and death
of all that are alive.

Thich Nhat Hanh

There is no diminution of life.
There is not less of life because a sparrow or a child falls to the ground.
Loss of life is something that cannot happen,
because life is something entirely whole.
Nothing can be taken from it or added to it.
It is eternal perfection.

Adapted from "The Heart of the Family" by Elizabeth Goudge

"And what the dead had no speech for, when living,
They can tell you, being dead: the communication
Of the dead is tongued with fire beyond the language of the living."


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